Stage 1 of 5
The Break
Everything is still too loud to think straight.
The breakup is a fact your body hasn't caught up to yet — sleep is off, food doesn't taste like much, and your ex is the first and last thought most days. This isn't a stage you push through by trying harder; it's one you get through by making the next 24 hours smaller and more survivable. Nothing here is wrong with you — this is what a nervous system does right after a real loss.
What tends to help right now
A few free, practical pointers for this stage — not the full plan.
- Keep the next 24 hours small and survivable — basics first.
- Have a concrete plan for the moment you want to reach out.
- Delay big decisions until the charge settles.
Not sure this is you?
Take the eighteen-question reading and see where you are on the arc.